Sunday, July 19, 2009

Signs of emotional abuse

Signs of emotional abuse:

1) You may be in an abusive relationship if he or she:
• Is jealous or possessive toward you.
(Jealousy is the primary symptom of abusive relationships.)
• Tries to control you by being very bossy or demanding.
• Tries to isolate you by demanding you cut off social contacts and friendships.
• Loses his or her temper quickly.
• Abuses alcohol.
• Claims you are responsible for his or her emotional state. (This is a core diagnostic criteria for Codependency.)
• Blames you when he or she mistreats you.
• Has a history of bad relationships.
• Your family and friends have warned you about the person or told you that they are concerned for your safety or emotional well being.
• You frequently worry about how he or she will react to things you say or do.
• Makes "jokes" that shame, humiliate, demean or embarrass you, weather privately or around family and friends.
• Your partner grew up witnessing an abusive parental relationship, and/or was abused as a child.
• Your partner "rages" when they feel hurt, shame, fear or loss of control.
• Both parties in abusive relationships may develop or progress in drug or alcohol dependence in a (dysfunctional) attempt to cope with the pain.
• You leave and then return to your partner repeatedly, against the advice of your friends, family and loved ones.
• You have trouble ending the relationship, even though you know inside it's the right thing to do.

2) Does the person you love...

• constantly keep track of your time?

• act jealous and possessive?

• accuse you of being unfaithful or flirting?

• discourage your relationships with friends and family?

• prevent or discourage you from working, interacting with friends or attending school?

• constantly criticize or belittle you?

http://abuse101.com/emotionalabuse.html

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